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Repost: The 9 Qualities That Help You Thrive Under Pressure

This morning I found this wonderful article from Time about traits that make a person successful.  Here is that article, reposted in full:


young plantIn new and challenging situations, some people fold under pressure and some manage to squeak by. And then there are the people who really thrive—blossoming in the face of uncertainty or adversity. Now, researchers say they’ve pinpointed a number of personality traits and external factors that, when combined, can predict a person’s chances of thriving.

For their recent paper, published in the journal European Psychologist, scientists from the University of Bath in the U.K. reviewed a wide variety of research on what makes people thrive in all types of circumstances—physically, professionally, athletically, artistically and academically, to name a few. From those studies, they came up with two lists of variables—nine personal traits and six outside influences—that are common among people who continuously grow, learn and succeed in life.

People don’t have to possess every component on these lists in order to thrive, say the authors, but a combination of a few from each list could certainly help. That formula could include any or all of the following:


The person should be …

  • optimistic
  • spiritual or religious
  • motivated
  • proactive
  • someone who enjoys learning
  • flexible
  • adaptable
  • socially competent
  • someone with self-confidence and self-esteem

External factors

The person should have …

  • opportunity
  • support from employers, family, or others
  • a manageable level of challenges and difficulties
  • a calm environment
  • a high degree of autonomy
  • the trust of others

These lists may not be very surprising—but the authors say that until now, there has been no real consensus for exactly what characteristics and circumstances help people thrive, or what we can do to increase our chances of doing so.

To sum up their research, lead author Daniel Brown, now a sport and exercise scientist at the University of Portsmouth in the U.K., says that the act of thriving seems to come down to “feeling good about life and yourself and being good at something.”

While some people maybe more naturally prone to thriving than others, Brown says there are things we can do to cultivate these important traits within ourselves. For starters, he recommends relying on internal motivations (things that are truly important to you) rather than external ones (things society says should be important to you), and trying to always look at new situations as opportunities for gain and growth.

There may be ways we can encourage thriving in others, as well—like our kids, our partners, or our employees. “It’s likely to be important for individuals to feel they have a choice in what they are doing, that they hold close and supportive relationships with people around them, and that they perceive themselves having some level of competence in the tasks they are completing,” Brown told Health via email.

More studies are needed to determine which factors are most important for thriving in specific scenarios, and the differences between thriving under serious adversity versus everyday stress, the authors wrote in their paper. But they hope their research is a good stepping-stone for understanding the psychology behind what it takes to be our best selves, no matter what life throws our way.

This article originally appeared on Health.com




“Destiny,” the Law of Attraction, and the Vortex

If you read my last blog post filled with some very useful quotes from the entity calling itself “Abraham” as channeled by Esther Hicks, you have probably heard of something that Abraham calls “The Vortex” which can also be thought of as the law of attraction currents that pull you to what you want in life (even if you are sending “want” energies towards what your conscious mind does NOT want).


As I said before, I love the river metaphor and the quote “this is not Disneyland; you cannot turn this river off.”


This has, in turn, made me think about the idea of DESTINY.  Destiny seems like some mystical force.  But is it?


The idea of Destiny is that each of us are MEANT for something, that events in our lives come to us out of some sort of conscious deliberation.  In Greek mythology, the Fates were three sister goddesses which is probably why we think of fate and destiny as connected with divinity.


But here is a thought for you:  what is Destiny is simply a set of strong currents in the Law of Attraction that are generated by the force of our individual personalities?  That is to say WE CREATE OUR OWN DESTINY — NOT CONSCIOUSLY BUT BY VIRTUE OF BEING INDIVIDUALS.

When I taught past life recall classes among Wiccan/Pagan groups in the 1990s, classes strongly grounded in my psychoanalytic studies as part of my BA in Psychology, I talked about CORE PERSONALITY TRAITS.  These are the traits that have always been with us and first observed in early childhood.  They can be very mundane likes and propensities or very deep, major traits.


A good example of that for me is my love of parrots.  The moment I saw a cockatoo for the first time it was love at first sight.  I wanted a cockatoo!  I wanted a white cockatoo (white being important to my mental construct of cockatoos — genus Cacatua for those keeping track of the science).  All through my life, it was a WHITE PARROT that attracted me more than any other.  And so finally I received my wish eleven years ago with my albino cockatiel Mithril, my little princess.

The Law of Attraction gave me my wish for a white cockatoo.  It took many years — but Mithril is sitting on my shoulder as I write.  Parrots are at the core of who “Laurel” is.


But there are other currents as well that while they’ve always been there, I haven’t embraced nearly so easily, perhaps because they operate at a deeper level that was easy to reason away as my “imagination.”

At the age of seven or eight playing "queen" with a paper crown and scepter

At the age of seven or eight playing “queen” with a paper crown and scepter

When I was about seven or eight I remember telling my brother that I wanted to be queen someday when I grew up.  This is from Lincoln, Nebraska and before the marriage of Diana Spencer to Prince Charles of Britain taught me of the existence of this strange place called “England.”  Naturally I was mocked for saying that and the idea was shoved back into the unconscious mind.


But the current did not go away.  I took great interest in the wedding of Charles and Diana and ever after seemed to notice the few mentions of news items from the United Kingdom more readily.  I came to understand that Britain has a monarchy (a remote idea to someone raised in the midwest region of the United States) and over time, I grew more and more interested in British stories and histories.  Shakespeare came to my notice as I started adolescence and secondary school and I fell in love with the Bard.


Then, around 1987, public television aired a series renamed “Robin Hood” which was called Robin of Sherwood when it aired a few years before in England.


England now had my full attention as I marveled at the stories of Robin Hood as played by Michael Praed.

In University, memories of my first past lives filtered through and I felt for the first time like the road of my life lead to a life outside of the United States.  I confused that direction as going to China (where so many of my past lives happened) and not to England.


Once more however, others around me convinced me to repress my vision, causing more wandering.


Then about a year ago, England came back to my mind.  Inexplicably, I came to find comfort and attraction to British voices over American ones.


Those feelings of being pulled towards England only increased this year when I sought a narrator for the audio edition of “Boudicca:  Britain’s Queen of the Iceni.”


The first time I heard Mr. Richard Mann’s voice, the feeling was electric and I came at last to understand:  my personality has pulled me to England all my life.


What does the future hold?  Can anyone know.  But this I do know:  somehow and in someway, my heart knows where home is.




Repost: Awesome Gang Interview of Laurel A. Rockefeller

Here is the Awesome Gang’s interview of author Laurel A. Rockefeller

author Laurel A. Rockefeller in 2012

author Laurel A. Rockefeller in 2012