Many of you know that for most of 2014 I was a HUGE fan of the Law of Attraction videos and affirmations. I was spending several minutes per day with meditations and affirmations in effort to manifest financial security for myself.
One of the main LoA teachers I focused on was Abraham Hicks — the alleged other worldly being channeled by Esther Hicks, an idea that made me uncomfortable from the start because of my own spiritual journey and interactions with spirits. I am naturally distrustful of channeling. But the film The Secret was put in front of me when I was emotionally vulnerable so I did what so many of us do and disregarded my instincts out of desperation. In seeing my personal finances from the “glass half empty” point of view, I made myself prey to someone who actually claims to be a literal demon living in human form.
This alone should have rang alarm bells. It didn’t, plausibly because in my own first hand experience, actual demons or malicious spirits (pick your word) are able to project a form of glamour upon their prey — manipulating them, as I was in this case, into thinking they are in love with them — even in the face of contradictory evidence. So I confess I was duped, manipulated. He had me so wrapped around his finger that I spent money I had no business spending on things that I didn’t really want or need — making my desperation even worse (you can see how this spirals).
This was the context into which I entered into the whole law of attraction thing. It happened at a time of fear and vulnerability when I was being emotionally (not for the first time) manipulated by a man with ulterior motives.
I was prime target for a scam. I was primed to open up a massive hole and fall down down down into it.
Though it did take me down a bit, it didn’t destroy me. Because at the end of the day, there are kernels of truth to the law of attraction. The problem is not the 70-80% that is solid; it’s the 20-30% that isn’t. The best lies are the ones that are just barely lies — where the deceit and misinformation is subtle.
I am not the first person to fall for a scam, even partially. I won’t be the last. But I want to confess that I did fall for something that hindsight — and the wisdom of my heart brother Tim Wilson — shows is ultimately about luring vulnerable people into spending money they shouldn’t out of desperate need for a magic bullet that solves everything neatly and easily.
Nothing is ever that easy; you won’t grow rich just by thinking about wealth. But you will grow rich by changing how you think and how you behave. Emotions are important to that. But thoughts and feelings without action will not do anything. And that is the big lie in the Law of Attraction movement. The movement focuses so much on how you feel that it is easy to forget you must ACT to reap its promised rewards.