On August 30th, I received another great Abraham Hicks quote about the Law of Attraction and how to manifest positive things into your life.
“You have to understand that it´s the DOUBT,
that you are trying to find your way out of,
Not the accomplishment of whatever it is,
that you doubt you can accomplish!
Did you hear that??
The work is to work your way out of the feeling of doubt,
NOT into the feeling of having whatever it is that you´re feeling doubtful about!
That´s so big!”
So what does all this really mean for us?
Thinking about my own habits about constantly seeking validation from other people, it occurs to me that seeking validation is a terrible (yet common) social impulse. When we seek validation from someone, we are essentially saying that we do not feel confident in our own point of view, that we need to be agreed with in order to feel it is okay to see the world the way we see it.
The mind hole (to use a popular Law of Attraction term) here is that when we seek that “yes, you are right; yes this is the way to go” from other people, we open ourselves up to being COMPLETELY TALKED OUT of our own point of view. We take on the other person’s point of view, telling the Universe that we changed our mind and really DON’T want whatever it is.
And then we wonder why we remain unhappy and do not get what we want!
Using the river and boat metaphor I published in my earlier blog post, what we have done is let SOMEONE ELSE into our boat of life and let THAT PERSON turn it up stream (away from our goals) for us. What is worse, the small doubt we started with has grown dramatically. It is no longer a small insecurity. It is now a full rejection of what we really know in our hearts means a lot to us.
Instead of living our own lives and following our own inner sense of morality, we’ve assimilated something else, someone else’s point of view. We lose our voices and miss out on golden opportunities for true joy.
So perhaps the answer is to stop asking others what they think, especially when it comes to something important to us.
It is not easy. But it is essential for inner peace.